Mauve 🦋 @mauve@meemu.org

I'm Mauve, a 37yo trans man from the North of England. I'm gay as in homosexual, I'm poly, and I live with my long-suffering long-term partner.

My main interests are: old gay novels, gay history, Sengoku & Bakufu Japan, colouring books, indie perfumes, kpop, and 80s/90s goth 🦇

When I talk about gay kink and sex, I usually refer to subs and bottoms as "boys". I mean this in the D/s sense - I'm referring to adults aged 18+ who take the submissive "boy" role in sex and kink.

I know 99% of you know this, of course, but I thought it was worth stating explicitly for absolute clarity.

Oh blimey, I guess now that Romance Halloween has come and gone, it's time to gear up for Yellow-themed Springtime Halloween 🐤 🥚 🌼

And bitching about other people's food choices seems as sensible as critiquing their kinks; "Oh my god, can you believe Keith eats a Pot Noodle for lunch every day?" sounds like prudery to me, along the lines of "Oh my god, Keith does X with his boyfriend!! 🤢"

I think part of my bafflement about this is that food seems almost as personal as sex to me, so declaring in the office that you've been "good" or "bad" in terms of your diet sounds a bit like randomly telling your colleagues that you've been doing really well with your "no masturbation challenge" 😬

"I was bad yesterday and ate X, so today I'm being good and doing <exercise> after work!"

No, Denise, you're not being good, you're being tedious. 🙄

I would like very much to never hear food or exercise described in terms of moral worth, ever again. (I mean in the context of diet talk, btw.)

Signed, someone who works in an office full of people doing Weight Watchers, who are always going on about food being "bad" and exercise being "good".

Proof that I must have popped my clogs and gone to heaven:

a) I've got a lovely boyfriend
b) Fanta are releasing a no-added-sugar purple grape soda in the UK!!! 🍇 ✨

I've written three sonnets in three days, and I'm starting to think this boy is the muse I've been waiting my entire life for 😍

This boy is changing me so much, in a very good way, and I'm so happy 😍